Have you considered the origin of that beautiful, endurable, rare piece of jewelry called a pearl, Yes, it is a gemstone, but it was not mined from the earth. The Pearls are the resultant effect of a transformative process that takes place when an oyster comes into contact with an irritant, a grain of sand. When sand finds its way into an oyster, it gets stuck between the oyster's mantle and its shell. ] This irritates the oyster. and in order to protect itself it covers the irritant with a substance called neka. This substance usually used to create a share will instead now form a pearl. So an oyster plus an irritant Produced a pearl, an oyster plus an affliction resulted in a jewel. An oyster, plus pain, yielded a high valued accessory, a soft, dark oyster plus a thord in the flesh Brought forth a strong, beautiful round gem. Your pain is simply the raw material for the masterpiece that you are becoming. It is not punishment. It is preparation. So don't give up. don't give in. It is not what happens to you that matters. It is what you are be coming that counts, therefore, don't let your pain define you but rather let it refine you