Justice Lamin

14 WAYS TO CORRECT YOUR HUSBAND WITHOUT HURTING HIS EGO 1. LOWER YOUR VOICE Don’t shout at him—he is not your child. Although sometimes he acts like one, you can correct him in a calm, low-volume tone. 2. DO IT IN LOVE Correction should always come from a place of love. Remember, your husband is human too. He makes mistakes, just like you. 3. NEVER CRITICIZE YOUR HUSBAND IN PUBLIC OR IN FRONT OF YOUR FRIENDS Stop criticizing him, especially in front of your friends or family—that is very degrading to men. Instead, correct him in love, just whisper gently with a hug. Some may call it constructive criticism, but men have egos, and their self-esteem can be fragile. Correction is about offering better options; correction and criticism are not the same. 4. LET’S CUT THE SAYING “WHATEVER MY WIFE SAYS” Girl, YOU ARE NOT THE BOSS! And neither is your husband. Every decision should be discussed and planned together. If he says your cooking is a little salty, NEVER WALK OUT OF THE TABLE. Instead, apologize and offer another option—maybe give him some sugar instead! (Just kidding.) Improve your cooking by watching YouTube videos. 5. PRAISE HIM FOR HIS ACCOMPLISHMENTS If he puts the curtain rod straight or hangs the wall decor perfectly, appreciate him. You know how meticulous men can be when handling tasks like that, using measuring tapes, torpedo levels, and rulers. A little extra appreciation will make him love you even more. 6. DON’T DO IT IN FRONT OF YOUR CHILDREN Avoid correcting your husband in front of your children. Constant correction in their presence will make them lose respect for him. Remember, HE IS THE HEAD OF YOUR HOUSEHOLD. 7. DON’T CORRECT HIM IN PUBLIC Avoid correcting your husband in public; it does not reflect well on you as a virtuous woman and can damage his self-esteem. Doing so in public makes you look like a mad dog without discipline. 8. AVOID CORRECTING HIM IN ANGER Stop correcting your husband in anger—no shouting, ranting, or making trouble. Never push him to the point where he has to defend himself against your outburst. That’s like adding kerosene to a burning house. Instead, invite him for a walk, hold his hand, and discuss the issue calmly. 9. DON’T COMPARE HIM TO OTHER MEN—NEVER, EVER! That’s where jealousy comes from. In your attempt to correct him, you might compare him to other men: “Don’t you see what your friend is doing?” “Can’t you learn from our neighbor’s husband?” “Can’t you be like Cheska’s husband? Or Susie’s husband? Or even Adam in the Garden of Eden?” Your husband is different. If you find yourself thinking this way, remember the time when he was courting you. Remember why you chose him and how deeply in love you were with him. 10. NEVER BRING UP OLD ISSUES There is no reason to bring up past issues, saying things like: “Remember what you did before? I will never, ever forget that!” Once an issue is resolved, it should be erased from memory. Never try to reopen old wounds—well-mannered women don’t do that. Stick to the present issue, discuss it like adults, and move on. 11. DON’T ATTACK HIS MANHOOD “And you call yourself a real man? Real men don’t behave like this. You better change before I change you!” This is very wrong—don’t do it! LADIES, we don’t change men. If they want to change, they will do so because of love, not pressure. You can’t sculpt water, and you can’t force a man to change. 12. DON’T ATTACK HIS DIGNITY GIVE YOUR HUSBAND A BUNCH OF RESPECT! That’s what matters most. If you don’t respect your husband, your children won’t respect him either—and they won’t respect you. 13. DO IT AT A TIME OF PEACE Most wives try to correct their husbands at the height of their anger, when tempers are flaring. That is not the best time—it will yield little to no results. MEN ARE SIMPLE; they have SELECTIVE HEARING. They respond best to a low, gentle tone. 14. GIVE A HELPING HAND Work together for the good of your marriage. Change a tire together, assist him in the most affectionate way. That will make his work easier and faster. If he’s fixing a broken table leg, hand him the tools he needs. Don’t just stand there like an Egyptian Pharaoh giving orders to slaves. Most husbands are doing their best—appreciate yours and support him in becoming a better husband and father. THE TRULY EMPOWERED WOMAN KNOWS HOW TO RESPECT MEN. IF YOU WANT YOUR HUSBAND TO BE A RESPECTABLE KING IN YOUR PALACE, THEN FIRST CREATE A PEACEFUL PALACE FOR HIM! ⸻