Desire
由 Julia SacmarSpeaker 1: Hi everyone! Welcome to our podcast where we talk about understanding the self and how it develops over time. Speaker 2: Yes! And for today’s episode, we’re diving into something very real and relatable—identity crisis. Speaker 1: Especially for us as students, diba? Yung feeling na minsan mapapaisip ka nalang— “Wait… sino ba talaga ako?” Speaker 2: Or “Tama ba yung ginagawa ko sa life?” If you’ve ever felt lost, confused, or unsure about your path—this episode is for you. Speaker 1: And don’t worry, hindi ka nag-iisa. A lot of people our age are going through the same thing. ⸻ 🧠 2. WHAT IS IDENTITY CRISIS? (3–4 mins) Speaker 2: So first, what exactly is identity crisis? Speaker 1: Identity crisis is when a person feels confused about who they are—like their values, goals, beliefs, or even their personality. Speaker 2: Parang hindi ka sure kung anong gusto mo, kung sino ka, or saan ka papunta. Speaker 1: It usually happens during adolescence or young adulthood—so basically, stage natin ngayon. Speaker 2: And it’s not just about big decisions like career. Kahit small things—like your style, your circle, or how you act around different people. Speaker 1: Like minsan, iba ka with friends, iba ka sa family… then mapapatanong ka, “Alin ba dun yung totoong ako?” ⸻ 📚 3. BACKGROUND (PHILOSOPHICAL + PSYCHOLOGICAL) (4–5 mins) Speaker 2: This idea actually goes way back. According to Socrates, “Know thyself.” Meaning, understanding yourself is the key to wisdom. Speaker 1: And based on the ideas of John Locke, our identity is shaped by our experiences. So everything we go through—childhood, school, relationships—nakakaapekto sa kung sino tayo. Speaker 2: In psychology naman, according to Erik Erikson, we go through different stages in life. Speaker 1: And during adolescence, we experience “identity vs. role confusion.” Speaker 2: Meaning, we try to figure out who we are. But if we don’t, we feel lost or unsure of ourselves. Speaker 1: So basically, identity crisis is not a problem—it’s actually part of development. Speaker 2: Parang process siya. Hindi siya overnight na “Ah okay, ito na ako.” ⸻ 🌍 4. CONTEXT TODAY (WHY IT HITS HARDER NOW) (4–5 mins) Speaker 1: But let’s be real—parang mas intense siya ngayon compared before. Speaker 2: Exactly. One major reason? Social media. Speaker 1: Platforms like TikTok, Instagram, Facebook—lagi tayong exposed sa “perfect” lives ng iba. Speaker 2: And kahit alam natin na curated lang yun, we still compare. Speaker 1: Like, “Bakit siya successful na at 20?” “Bakit ang ganda niya?” “Bakit parang ang ayos ng life niya?” Speaker 2: Meanwhile ikaw, you’re still figuring things out—and that makes you feel behind. Speaker 1: Another factor is pressure—from family, school, and society. Speaker 2: Especially in Filipino culture, diba? May expectations like: “Mag doctor ka,” “Mag engineer ka,” “Kailangan practical yung course mo.” Speaker 1: Even if deep inside, you’re not sure if that’s what you really want. Speaker 2: So ang ending, you start living based on expectations—not your own identity. ⸻ 💬 5. REAL-LIFE EXAMPLES (VERY RELATABLE) (4–6 mins) Speaker 1: Let’s talk about real-life situations. Kasi dito talaga siya mas nararamdaman. Speaker 2: Example 1—career confusion. Speaker 1: Like you chose your course because of your parents or friends… not because you truly wanted it. Speaker 2: Then suddenly, you feel lost. Parang, “Tama ba ‘to? Ito ba talaga future ko?” ⸻ Speaker 2: Example 2—social media identity. Speaker 1: Yung you try to act a certain way online para mag-fit in. Speaker 2: Like changing your personality, interests, or even opinions just to be accepted. Speaker 1: Then later on, mapapaisip ka— “Ginagawa ko ba ‘to dahil gusto ko, or dahil gusto nila?” ⸻ Speaker 1: Example 3—friend groups. Speaker 2: Yung feeling na kailangan mong makisabay kahit uncomfortable ka. Speaker 1: Like laughing at things you don’t find funny, or pretending to like things para lang hindi ka ma-out of place. ⸻ Speaker 2: And siguro pinaka-real—feeling lost kahit okay naman lahat. Speaker 1: Yes! Yung wala namang major problem, pero you still feel empty or confused. Speaker 2: Parang may kulang, pero hindi mo ma-explain kung ano. ⸻ 🎯 6. PERSONAL REFLECTION (2–3 mins) Speaker 1: Personally, I’ve experienced identity crisis when I started questioning my decisions—especially sa path na tinatahak ko. Speaker 2: Same. There was a time na I was just going with the flow—sunod lang sa expectations. Speaker 1: But I realized, hindi pala ganun dapat. You have to take time to understand yourself. Speaker 2: And it’s okay if hindi mo pa alam lahat. Hindi siya race. Speaker 1: Identity is something you build over time—not something you instantly figure out. ⸻ 🎯 7. CONCLUSION (2 mins) Speaker 2: So to summarize, identity crisis is a normal part of growing up. Speaker 1: It’s influenced by our experiences, environment, and the people around us. Speaker 2: And in today’s world, mas challenging siya because of social media and expectations. Speaker 1: But instead of being afraid of it, we can see it as an opportunity. Speaker 2: Opportunity to explore, grow, and discover who we truly are. Speaker 1: So if you’re feeling lost right now—okay lang yan. Speaker 2: You’re not behind. You’re just in the process of becoming. Both: Thank you for listening!